Love Marriage vs. Arranged-which stand do u take?

Brain says arrange marriage but heart says love!!!!!!!!!!

i believe you JUST cant marry someone you dont even know..
i might just agree for arranged marriage if im allowed to be engaged for an year or so..and see if we like each other even..if we do then its cool

Wow...So much on a simple topic(or rather,one which looks rather simple)...Both kinds of marriages have their own set of advantages.. but then,love marriages do seem to be the vogue...

now nayanika sums it up i guess

Hmmm..well,i guess i do...

dis authority lies wid ma parents.....bt at d same would definately take my parents into confidence if im upto ny luv marriage n all.....

i totally agree with u somya .... id haf a lov cum arrange marriage ... das d best n d safest way to go bout it!

surely love marriage.. but i doubt whether i will ever find a gal dumb enuf to fall in luv wid me..

well, it all dependz at whether i fall in luv or not..........
oderwise, riti is d 1 who guide me on dese issues....i will take her advice.........

hahhah!!! well..i will follow the crowd...not that my opinion
is influenced ..but i really think that we should make our own decisions in life...love marriage rules out many disadvantages
with form an inevitable part of arrange marriage such as ...it takes a life
time 2 know some one better and if u already know some one and the relationship
materializes in to nuptial bond then nothing like it...u are simply
blessed from the heavens....



if the love marriage doesn’t workout , u still know that it was ur decision and u
gotto stand up 2 it ....one is reminded of the good times as they say and u can
pull it through...which for obvious
reasons not possible with arrange marriage !!!

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if the love marriage doesn’t workout , u still know that it was ur decision and u
gotto stand up 2 it ....one is reminded of the good times as they say and u can
pull it through

wat if the partner says "he/she couldn't understand me in all these years...so there is no chance of him understanding now" !! don't you think they have an added incentive to pull apart earlier if they are going through a bad phase? i think love marriage kills teh feeling of adjustment to an extent...you expect the other person to understand since he/she has known you for long, and hence end up not adjusting yourself (which is the basis of any realtionship!!)

arranged marriages are the easy way out...those who have the balls go for love marriages!!!ha ha...have the courage to take the blame for what happened inside as wel as outside the bedroom...in arranged marriages you handle only the inside dept...and inter racial well its so cool to put up with a person who has totally diff habits n traditions...easier said than done tho...but biologically intercaste marriages are good as the children are genetially stronger.that i no for a fact.most arranged marriaged tend to be inside the community which sucks big time...i personally wud go for an inter caste marriage...my parents hd it and i like what has come out of it..me and my sister...he he...one more thing is i want to enjoy many marriage ...ek hi to din milta hai...

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arranged marriages are the easy way out...those who have the balls go for love marriages

was this sarcastic???

cause if it was not, trust me in today's age...those who have the balls go against the so called "hep" tradition of love marriages sir!!! it takes guts to 'not follow the crowd'!!!

exactly babes...i agree with ya nikhita....i guess thngs have changed now....considering dat arranged marriages have become a rare thing among "hep ppl", its really a gutsy thng to do......its about taking a chance...a gamble dat can work mirracles in ur future, and if u aint lucky...GOD BLESS Ya,,..

I would prefer Love marriage, coz as it has been already pointed out, 'tis more comfortable ... And at the end of the day, if a rlation doenst work out- I would take it as destiny rather than putting the blame on any particular "type" of marriage for it!

well arranged marriages do not mean dat ur parents r compelling u to gt married to sum1 u dnt wnt to spnd ur lyf wid....usualy a lot of reseach goes in2 da entire affair..n statistically arrnged marriaged record lesser divorce rates..so i guess its more foolproof dan n impulsive love blinded juvenile decision taken by ppl wid limited lyf experiences.
n hey love doesnt happn 2 all due to reasonz watsoever....
n young love may nt last a lyftym.........
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my vote goes 4 arranged marriages.

DEPENDSSSSSSSSS UPON THE GIRL

Love and then arranged....
No comments,its upon every1's discretion and preference..Nothing is wrong or right...

Love marriages don't tend 2 work out mainly because after a certain point of time, things get saturated.......actually so much time is spent together before marriage itself that the 2 persons start taking each other for granted........"adjustments", which r the building stones of a succesful marriage take a backseat generally.....people just refuse 2 budge

But i agree with jamshed.....even 4 arranged marriages the 2 persons should b given at least enuff time 2 start liking each other(being 2 hopeful maybe).........

I really don't understand how marriage in such a debatable issue and specially with our folks most of the time, don't you just fall in love , work hard, earn something and then get married to that person..The equation is so simple..I wonder y it turns complicated, unless after several love failures you decide not to trust your own taste so much, or rather more know that your parents know you sooo well that they'll know exactly who you want!!

marriage aint that simple lady.......................its a life long commitment 2 another person,..........link between 2 families...........................n lot of other things..............
my vote 2 personal discretion.............do wtvr u want but think b4 u do....................... hav a nice day ppl

I thnk u shuld hav one more option... like " love marriage with consent of parents ",,,,....,,,, MARRIAGE is a very important decision of our life which decides the future of our life.. all the happiness,sadness.. everthing depends on this one decision.... so atleast i dnt wan to take ne wrong step... jst giv a thought abt this,that our parents hv so many dreams regarding us.. and one such is marriage... so we shall nvr hurt the sentiments of our parents.. parents r the first priority... parents dnt wan2 ruin the lives of their beloved children... so we shuld take their suggestion before taking every important decision...

nikhita...maybe arranged marriages are a gutsy affair coz eeryone else is goin for love marriage...but a love marriage is certainly neeeds courage coz only u have responsibility for it...

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nikhita...maybe arranged marriages are a gutsy affair coz eeryone else is goin for love marriage...but a love marriage is certainly neeeds courage coz only u have responsibility for it...

adi...you are equally responsile for any sort of marriage going on the rocks...love or arranged..there are ppl who will blame their spouse for their love marriage to have broken...and there are people who'll blame their parents for their arranged marriage to not have worked out...as i see it...you are responsible for any sort of relationshipt o have broken...arrange, love, friends or anything!!