PERFECT RELATIONSHIP GUIDELINES!

Growing up we all dream of the perfect relationship. Our dreams are
reiterated over and over in the childhood classic movies and books we
watched and read. But, once we hit the "real world", it seems that
those dreams we've tried so hard to keep, always end up breaking in
pieces all around us. This often leads to the viewpoint that finding
and maintaining that fairy tale romance is futile and hopeless. There
is one exception… that loving couple whom seems to have everything
together. How many times have you questioned, "Why can't we be like
them?" The truth is, every couple can be like this by following the
traits of the characters you formed your dream relationship from. Start
living your life the way you want to by applying the following traits
of a fairy tale couple today!

Leave no doubt of your affection.

In romances you'll notice how the main pursuer is usually always up
front about their feelings. Never do they let them believe otherwise.
Take a look at your relationship (or past ones). Does your partner
really know exactly how you feel? When was the last time you told them
why you loved them or showered them with unexpected attention for no
reason? If it's been awhile… do it now!

Value your relationship.

Most fairy tales involve the characters going through a tremendous
obstacle to actually be able to be together. Overcoming those obstacles
teach the couple how valuable the relationship and each other are. In
real life it is easy to forget how important your relationship actually
is. It may not seem like you've overcome great feats to be together,
but if you think about it you could be alone still searching for
someone. Think about how you would feel or what you would do if for
some reason you would never see your partner again after today. How
would that affect you? Make an effort to show your partner how much you
value them and your relationship.

Defend and respect your partner.

When watching or reading a romance you'll notice how the characters
never disrespect each other. Also, if some injustice has occurred
towards their partner they are the first to stand up for them. There is
something in doing those two things that completely changes the
dynamics of a relationship. Imagine how you would feel if you witnessed
your partner defending you or speaking highly of you to someone else.
Make it a point to be there for your partner when they need it most and
to show how much you respect them.

Don't evaluate or criticize your partner.

If a character in a romance overly criticized or tried to change the
other character, the romance would never take place. Why? Because no
one wants to be reminded of their faults or shortcomings, especially
from someone who is supposed to love them unconditionally. A
relationship is a place where each partner can feel completely and
totally free with each other without judgment. It should be a haven
where you go when outside forces close in. The next time you feel the
urge to say something that isn't positive towards your partner… don't.
Accept them for who they are… completely.

Don't let outside sources influence your relationship.

The number one antagonist in a fairy tale is a third party trying to
destroy a relationship. Many times it's not even intentional. Outside
influences are one of the largest causes of strife in a relationship.
Take a look at your relationship now. Is there anything you both
frequently argue about? Chances are it's been caused by an outside
influence. The next time you feel the need to criticize, judge or argue
with your partner make sure it's actually something that originated
from you. If someone tells you something about your partner, first
check the validity of the source and then confront your partner in an
adult manner. Don't first assume what the person said was true. This is
trait is especially important when it comes to family members.

Last, but definitely not least, don't do anything to cause a lack of affection from your partner.

Not all fairy tales have a happy ending. When they don't it's almost
always because one of the characters did something to make the other
fall out of love with them. Your partner can only love you as much as
you give reason for them to love you. Don't jeopardize your
relationship by doing something you know will cause them to lose their
trust, faith and/or love in you. It's not worth it… ever.

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joshi.riju@gmail.com wrote:

no offence, but life is not a fairy tale... the sooner people will realise that the better off they will be. the above guidlines are perfect when u want to write a love story on a piece of paper. any relationship that runs on a set of guidlines is a farce, a joke.... the very essense of your relation lies in the fact that can you risk to be yourself in front of the other person..

If this forum had a reputation system I would've given a huge number of points for that post.

Brilliantly true!

a relationship fails whn u compare it with romance....
the difference between love storie sand real life is tht in love stories thr is romance...and in real life thr are relationships...

if one was to get into a relationship with guidelines, i'd rather call it an adjustment and not a relationship!!!

a relationship ain't a task dat u need guidelines to succeed in it.

every relationship has its own essence n d same rule can't be applied to ne 2 relationships....

hey totally agree wid smriti.....
i think d points given by tanmay r true 2 sm point or d other but we canr follow all dese...its not feasible for us...we can keep these in mind!!!!dats all i got 2 say....

hey tanmay..looks like u summarised a good one there...but honeslty..these kind of guidelines look best in newspapers and magazines( no offences to yuor writing) as truly it is the working out that makes the realtinship perfect..n these rules or guidelines dont always work when you are forced to accept some truths n problems in the relationship...still good effort...

guyz thnx 4 repliez...see i dint presented them az necesitiez for getin a relationshp to wrk...i emphasizd d fact dat these thingz mre or less matter nt directly bt indirectly...i agree to the fact that evry relationshp iz distinct n haz itz own value n charm bt d fact remainz evry relationshp iz prfct til both d partnerz dnt luze gapz between them...n hey evry relationshp iz prfct till u r honest n cmfrtble ...mreova communication n understandin iz at par....i apreciate evry1nz viewz hwevr!!!itz gr8 to knw v cn make evrythn wrk out if v hv our conscience n sense ov judgement on rite trak!!!

SIX WORDS : DuDe ! ! ! JuSt go WiTh thE FloW ! ! !

exactly!n d word perfect relationship is an oxymoron itself...
ders nothin called a perfect relationshp...its a level we all try to reach but its pretty much outta reach....

Nd,to continue wat smriti has said...is duniya mein kuch bhi perfect nahi hota...useh perfect banana parta hai...u have to work to make ur relationship perfect..but for you first..wat might define perfection in a relationship for the world might not hold true for you...so,its for urself first that u make it work,rather than for people saying..."what a perfect couple.."...wat say????

sure nayanika...truly abide by wat u sed!well sed babez!

tanmay your post reminded me of so many things that i have realized over time in my relationship.the outside influences n some other points don make a lot of diff accordin to me.for me everytime i have a prob or face a difficulty i ask myself how my life would be without the relationship n how it makes me who i am and i weigh it against the sacrifices n adjustments i will have to make to live in it.and i always end up doin all i can to make my rel more beautiful.after a point sacrifices don matter anymore because they r not sacrifies any more....

I agree with you tanmay at certain levels, but yup as smriti said perfect relationship is definitely an oxymoron in itself!! Besides at the end of the day we all recat to situations, people etc. spontaneoulsy! as in... we just cant follow rules and "decide" to do certain thingz and not do some others. I think that would not even be fair. We should always "be ourselves"- acting the way we want and only then can we reach out to others!

crap...didn t even care to read it completely.......thats cuz wid ppl n in relnshps 1+1 is not 2 necessarily.for some it adds to 4 ,5 maybe 10000043.

maybe try for a job wid femina man ...they d pay u well

n yeah just like riju.i don t mean offence either but i m sure that u have definetly been offended.sorry 4 dat

GUIDELINES!!!!It reminds me of KAL HO NA HO..
' 6 DIN ladki IN!!!'
No offences to your views n opinions tanmay..but practically,if i find out that he is toeing some guidelines for sustaining a relationship,..umm..it will hurt..He s not himself but is actually applying some rules to be happy.in my mind.As someone said here..JUST GO WITH THE FLOW.....let it come on its own. .trust me....its better to fight and vent ur ire than to follow some guidelines to sustain the relationship or to resurrect the relation for that matter.
by the way..nice writing,and a good theme that u chose to write on.Good goin dude.

Anupma